How to lift your vibrations (or: what a difference a day makes)

Enough with the pity party. I don’t think I will figure out the bigger questions of life by tonight, unless I drink the whole bottle of wine and get all philosophical. And I won’t do that, even though I want to. After all, the doctor told me that this pregnancy is pretty much a done deal so technically speaking I might as well be drinking again. I'm just sitting here in limbo. The doctor's office never called me back with my blood results. So even though I know it's over, I will be sitting all weekend with the nagging little thought that it aint over ‘till the fat lady sings. Or calls, in this case (not that I'm implying that my doctor is fat or anything…).

Today I’m in relatively pretty good spirits however, thanks for asking. I’ve been down this road before. Nobody would blame me for being mad and sad for a while, but I just want to feel better!

I still believe in the core principles of the law of attraction! I still believe that happy vibrations attract happy things into your life, and the opposite holds true too. I don't think the Universe will bring me my octuplets if I keep focusing like I have been the last few days. On what I DON’T want. I don’t want to feel this pain. I don’t want to miscarry. I don’t want to have the pity of my friends and family.

I knew I needed to vibrate happier thoughts. The happier you feel, the better life gets. And the better life gets, the happier you feel. So I decided to try something new. I actually made an effort to lift my vibrations. I read about these things in Oprah’s magazine, but as with anything, I never actually DID it. It’s easier to just grab for the next bag of Dove chocolates. That has always been my way to deal with adversity.

But hey, I got this blog now, I committed to upgrading my life. Gotta start some time. This set back is actually a good opportunity to practice what I preach. I figured I didn’t have much more to loose, I still a bag of Dove chocolates in the pantry of all else failed. and a yar from now, when my life is grant and fabulous, I don't want you to roll your eyes saying "easy for you to say". Because, see, I struggled too. I am working my way out there. One thought at the time.

Guess what? It actually worked! It wasn’t that hard at all. Sure, staying in bed all day with the curtains closed would have been easier. But I would still have been laying there, the dishes piling up.  Instead I:

1)      Made a playlist of songs that lift my spirit and played it over and over again. For me these are songs like Louis Armstrong (what a wonderful world), the Bee Gees (you should be dancing, yeah!) and Natascha Beddingfield (Unwritten and also Pocket full of Sunshine).

2)      I decided I needed to laugh. So I blew of my ‘to do’ list of the day and gave myself permission to watch silly clips on the computer for as long as I wanted. Like this one, and this and this.

3)      So far it wasn't that much "work". But then I decided to sit down with pen and paper and write a long list of things that I am grateful for. You know why? Because the new doctor had made a comment that I thought was stupid dismissed as ignorant and insensitive, when I was balling my eyes out in her office. She handed me a tissue and said “be glad you already have a daughter”. Did she just try to comfort me by saying I shouldn't be ungrateful? Did she never get the memo on what not to say to a woman who miscarried?

But you know what, in a way she was right. I am glad that at least I have a daughter. She is the best reason to get out of bed each morning and put a smile on my face. There is a lot of healing power in counting your blessings. The more blessings I came up with, the more blessed I felt. It’s hard to pity yourself and feel blessed at the same time. Feeling blessed will overrule!

4)      I decided to dress myself extra nice today. No sweatpants and baggy shirt to match my mood, but a nice top on my best fitting jeans and some lipstick, so my mood can match my clothes! You do feel better when you look better.

5)      I gave my dog some extra lovin’. It felt better than pushing her away, like I normally do.

Of course I could make a feel good list with a hundred ideas. I could have gone out to buy myself something pretty, have a massage, reach out to a friend, take a walk on the beach, start a new knitting project or go to the movies by myself. But they’re all pretty obvious tips and I don’t have to tell you WHAT to do to make YOU feel better (although I’m always curious to hear what works for you!). I just wanted to tell you that it works.

So, now instead of feeling whiny and sorry for myself, I am walking around with this catchy happy tune. How appropriate.

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