For my vision board I had found a picture of a collection of pretty white hobnail milk glass. And what did my friend Amy walk in with? A white hobnail milk glass vase. See how the Universe works? I had not even pasted the picture on my poster board yet...
Actually, I haven't put anything on my vision board yet. Doesn't that characterize my life? I only ended up with more clips from magazines to put with my huge stack of dreams, desires and hopes...
It wasn't just me who didn't manage to complete a vision board yesterday. Eleven fabulous friends came together, all equipped with piles of magazines, scissors, glue and poster board. But will you believe that only 2-3 of us went home with a finished product? Yeah, you guessed it. They are the "do-ers", the movers and shakers in our circle. You know what they say... you get out of life what you put into it.
Isn't that interesting? What you put into it... or in our case yesterday: what you put ONTO it. On the board, that it. Here's a tiny epiphany I had yesterday, while sitting at the table with my friends, listening to their chatting, sharing and exchanging clips from magazines, drinking wine, laughing, listening to music, browsing magazines. I noticed how only a few of us knew exactly what they wanted. Yes, the aforementioned girls who ended up finishing their boards.
The rest of us had either too many snips from magazines to make a choice from, or hardly had anything cut out at all.
Some of us loved everything, which made it impossible to make a selection for
our boards (and even worse: look at all the untouched magazines we can still browse through,
what if we find even BETTER pictures yet?). Our boards stayed empty. And some of us didn't really know what it is that they want. Nothing from the magazines stood out for them. Nothing really enticed them. Their boards stayed empty too.
Vision boards are about setting intention. Intentions set energy into motion. An empty vision board just gives you more of the same. And I don't know about you, but I am all for upgrading my life!
So I learned a thing or two, yesterday.
WE'RE AFRAID OF DREAMING TOO BIG...
During all the browsing and chatting and laughing, I overheard comments like "...but that would be greedy, to want more vacations, I can't just make a vision board full of vacations". "Oh no, I couldn't possibly spend $ 2,000 on a sweater". "I will never look like that".
As for myself, I had cut out a picture of a huge home. HUGE. From the outside it looked like it had about 15 bedrooms. My first thought was: "wow, all our family and friends could come spend the whole summer with us every year, plenty of room for everybody". My second thought was, what would the mortgage be on that building? On top of that, somebody commented on my clip saying: "imagine keeping it all clean".
I tossed the clip in the trash. It felt out of my reach. I couln't possibly live in a home that big. Also, in all honesty, I felt a little embarrassed with myself. How unspiritual of me to want that much?
I don't really want a home with 15 rooms, of course (a pool would be nice though). But that's not the point. The point is: I am afraid to dream too big. Big, as in: anything that will make me stand out from my friends and family.
It's not that I don't believe I don't deserve luxury (are you kidding me?). It's not that I doubt if the Universe can provide. No, my biggest fear is that I would be less "relatable" and less "approachable" . When do you stop being happy for me when I am going on yet another spa retreat (flying first class of course) and at what point will you start rolling your eyes at me if I buy a Chanel watch in black AND in white while you complaint about the prices at the local super market (which, ha, is totally me now! I complain about the prices at our local super market, but it is something we have in common). When people are like each other, they tend to like each other!
I know! I know! I don't serve anybody by living a small and mediocre live either. Note to self: start working on my beliefs!
WE DOUBT THE PROCESS
Another friend has been having trouble putting a home on her vision board for a few years now. She moves from seasonal house to seasonal house. She likes her hippie lifestyle and the excitement of living in (and taking care of) different houses each year. "It gives me a chance to live in amazing houses that I would never be able to afford myself". Well, you could start envisioning it, may be one day you WILL own one of those amazing houses. But no, she doesn't want to own a house "because that means so much responsibility and extra bills".
It's not just this one friend. We all have dreams we instantly dismiss because HOW would that ever be possible?
Remember: we don't need to worry about HOW the Universe will take care of our dreams. If you truly desire something, you put in the order. If you really want to be a home owner, the Universe is not going to play some funny trick on you and give you your dream home but leave you with a mortgage you can't afford, or maintenance bills that are just too high ... it doesn't come with disclaimers. If anything, it will come with a handy man! You must trust the process, you must belief in the law of attraction.
"It's not your work to make anything happen. It's your work to dream it and let it happen. Law of Attraction will make it happen. In your joy, you create something, and then you maintain your vibrational harmony with it, and the Universe must find a way to bring it about. That's the promise of Law of Attraction."
WE HAVE TO PUT THE WORK IN
Showing up for a vision boarding afternoon was the easy part. Browsing through all the magazines, while sipping wine, wasn't that hard either. Now we have to put it all together. Now we have to actually sit down and ask ourselves: what is it that I want for myself in the next 5 years? How about the next 10 years, where do I see myself in life? Where do I want to go from here? Which magazine clips go with that? And dangit, Jess,... start pasting already!
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